4 Reasons why you’re not lasting long in bed

4 Reasons why you’re not lasting long in bed

Men will do anything to last longer in bed, or so they say. Typically from the point of penetration, most men will last between 5 and 10 mins. However, let me be quick to add that there is a wide range of normal when it comes to the normal duration of sex. This makes it difficult to pinpoint exactly what duration calls for intervention. However, if your regular, long-term partner begins to complain about a drop in duration, then you know there is definitely a problem that requires attention.

Here are 4 reasons why you could be experiencing premature ejaculation.

  1. Stress

Stress is the number one cause of all forms of erectile dysfunction, ED, and premature ejaculation, PE. The interesting thing about stress is that it has the potential of spiraling into a vicious cycle, where the distress over the ED and/or PE worsens the already existing ED/PE.

The body’s response to stress in all its forms (emotional, physical, etc) is to increase the levels of stress hormones to prepare the body to deal with the situation. Say a lion was to enter into your bedroom, now that is a very stressful situation, lol. Your body’s response would be to increase your levels of cortisol, adrenaline and noradrenaline, in anticipation of your attempt at escaping. Now at that particular time, the least expectation is for you to have an erection. Stress hormones, therefore, inhibit your sexual function.

On the other hand, when you are stressed you, are unable to focus on the task at hand. Your mind keeps wandering away from the sex act, resulting in premature ejaculation.

  1. Diabetes

Diabetes is a disease condition that affects your body’s ability to utilize sugar due to a deficiency in the production of insulin (type 1), or an inability of the insulin produced to do its job (type 2). Due to this challenge, your blood sugar level continues to rise. The excess sugar in the blood begins to spill over into other areas, such as the lens of the eye and underneath the skin. Excess sugar is toxic to nerves, this is why persons with long-standing, poorly treated diabetes, especially type 2, lose sensation in their feet and develop ulcers that result in amputations, and yes, the same thing happens in the penis as well. Just to emphasize, diabetes will result in a loss of sensation in your penis if you don’t get the blood sugar under control. Loss of sensation in your penis means you cannot have an erection when you want it because the nerves in your penis have been damaged, and when you do have an erection, it does not last as long as you or your partner would want it to.


  1. Hypertension

Nicknamed the silent killer not just because it could kill you, but yes it could kill ‘the you that matters’, your mojo or your lil john, your penis, just in case you hadn’t caught on yet. Hypertension is a condition where your blood pressure is consistently elevated above normal. Sustained high blood pressure will result in damage to blood vessels particularly the small vessels like those found in the penis. Damaged blood vessels become stiffened in a condition called atherosclerosis. The stiffened blood vessels are no longer elastic and cannot hold as much blood as it’s supposed to. Simply put, the blood flow into your penis will be slower, which means you will struggle to get an erection.

Secondly, you will not get enough blood in the penis at the height of arousal, which means your erection will not be as hard as you want it to be; and finally, because the erection is slower and softer, it will naturally not last as long as you want it to.

  1. Masturbation

I must say this is the biggest cause of PE, especially among the younger demographic. If we put religious sentiment aside, masturbation does have some benefits, in fact, it can be used as an intervention in some cases of PE. The problem though is when it is overused or uncontrolled.

Masturbation refers to the self-stimulation of your genitals and other parts of your body for pleasure or sexual arousal. Emphasis on self, which means, you don’t need anyone else, once you feel for it, you pleasure yourself. This appeal makes masturbation a very low-hanging fruit and quite easy to abuse.

Masturbation by itself does not cause PE, however, most boys and young adults who engage in masturbation are usually hiding and in a hurry to finish off. This sets up a negative feedback to the brain and establishes a ‘quick-finish’ cycle such that even when you find yourself with a woman, your brain is unable to register that there is a second party involved and follows the same pattern as if you were masturbating in secret.

So yes, masturbation has its place in medical practice, but it can also cause you a lot of discomfort if not handled right.


If you suffer from any form of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, don’t keep it to yourself, we can help you. Earlier intervention is always more effective and less costly.

Dr. Kelvin Owusu is a Wellness Consultant who, through a holistic approach, helps individuals and groups craft innovative health plans aimed at promoting healthy lifestyles. 

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